"Out of sight, out of mind"

Everyone knows the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder," but is it really true? In some ways I would like to say YES, of course it is true. I mean, you never really realize what you have been given until it is gone. Yet, sometimes the statement "Out of sight, out of mind" comes into play. So, which is more valid? I believe that the both are true depending on the circumstances. If you are missing something for just a very short period of time, I believe that the latter can be achieved. Yet, if something so dear to you, and it is gone for even a short period of time, you realize how much you miss it. In this case, the first quote applies. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is a more acceptable quote for many experiences.

Think about it: how many times have you been punished by your parents and they take away TV, the computer, your phone, or your ability to hang out with friends. Once it is gone, you realize how much you actually depend on these items to get through the day (well, at least I do.) I didn't realize how much I depended on my phone until I had it taken away from me for an extended period of time. I freel naked with out it. After it is gone I realize how much I need it and I want it back.

Ok so enough of this depending on electronics idea, what about if someone you love dearly is gone for months on end. Like if your loved one is deployed to Iraq or Iran to fight in the war. You realize how much you love them when they are gone and your heart aches for them. When they get home, all you want to do is hold them and never let go. This doesn't mean in any way that you didn't love your significant other before, you just realize how you never want to live without them during their deployment. This is just like how your love for your husband/wife should grow throughout your years with them, if it doesn't there is something wrong.

In the book "The Last Song" I bawled my eyes out throughout the end. But that is besides the point. Basically the daughter is a b**** to her dad until she realizes that he is dying. She hates that she has to stay with him for a summer and she ignores her dad or yells at him the entire time because she blames him for the leaving them (when in reality her mom was the one that cheated on him). She didn't realize how much she needed him until he was on his deathbed. Once he was about to die and actual passed away she figured out how much she needed him. But it was too late, she couldn't take back all the nasty things she said to him. This just proves that you have to treat others like you will never be able to say you are sorry. Don't say things you will regret later.

If you ever find yourself thinking "Out of sight, out of mind" you may need to take into account the fact that whoever or whatever is out of sight, out of mind, is not important enough to you to either stay with them. You obviously don't love them enough or care for them enough for them to be the right one, because when you love someone you will want to hold onto them forever. You never realize what you have until it is gone. At that point, you will not get to say all of the things that you wish you could say. Therefore, you should never go a day without saying "I love you" to your loved ones and forgiving everyone for their mishaps. Never sleep a night with words unsaid because you will never know when you won't be able to say another word to them. Live life in the moment. Adios!